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Facebook Radically Alters Grief Debriefing Session

8/11/2015

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Recently, I was asked to provide grief counseling to a group of employees at a creative agency following the sudden death of an employee. Unlike in years past, when Human Resources and a grief counselor generally communicated the death of an employee, this assignment was radically different. Mark*, a larger than life, fun loving employee had passed away over the weekend. Two hours later, his death was communicated by his family on Facebook. In the virtual world of 20 and 30 something’s, the entire staff affected by Mark’s death knew within a couple of hours.

Given the speed of communication with social media, how should a company modify its grief counseling approach?

By the time I arrived to conduct the grief counseling session, the energy in the room was different because the whole group had already been in communication since the day his  family announced his death. It became abundantly clear that a different approach was necessary.

I quickly realized the need to switch gears and to provide information about grief, loss, and self care and to normalize their experience. After I spoke, the group seemed to want to reminisce about Mark and share their favorite stories about who he was. It seemed appropriate at this moment to allow the group their experience and observe rather than facilitate.

After I spoke, I turned it over to the manager and he began to talk, laugh, and cry about Mark. They shared funny stories; there were roars of laughter and outbursts of tears. It seemed to be one extreme or the other--emotions were running high.  They also talked about Mark meeting his future wife and becoming a father.

After about an hour, the group seemed to have shared what they needed to share. The manager looked over at me and said, “Do you have anything else for us?” I said without hesitation, “I have never been to a grief counseling session quite like this.” The whole room burst out laughing. One person said that Mark wouldn’t want it any other way.

On that note, the group concluded. The staff had lunch together, socialized in the conference room, and left around 4 pm for dinner together. Funeral arrangements were being planned and the company was in close contact with Mark’s family. The managers asked me about assisting Mark’s widow in the days ahead.

The whole experience reminded me of the importance of flexibility—being able to adapt to different situations, and helping people process grief in a way that feels authentic to them.

*Not his real name
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    Author Kay Gimmestad is a Business Coach and Clinician with 20 years of experience working in the profit and not for profit sectors of Human Resources, Health and Human Services. In this blog, she shares case studies and other observations from her decades in the field. 

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